Let’s look at Anthony Joshua and Kamaru Usman, Both were World Champions and have been Winners Consistently for Close to 5 Years Now combined.
Both even have a fan base Global Fans and Nigerian fans who would have been dissappointed by their Career loss and even feel that , their Career was now Over.
Their Careers are not Over Yet Both of them responded to their defeats on social media by Congratulating the New Champions and accepted their losses , lessons they learnt from Failure and have decided to Move forward by Not Yet Quitting Boxing or UFC Yet failing forward and also accepting their fates.
Here are some lessons you can learn from This 2 Winners who failed over the weekend August 20 to new Champions respectively.
Realize There Is One Major Difference Between Average People and Achieving People.
Look at the way any achiever approaches negative experiences, and you can learn a lot about how to fail forward.
Read through these two lists, and determine which one describes your approach to failure:
Differences Between Failing Backward and Failing Forward
1. Blaming Others
2. Taking Responsibility
1. Repeating the Same Mistakes
2• Learning from Each Mistake
1. Expecting Never to Fail Again 2• Knowing Failure Is a Part of Progress
1. Accepting Tradition Blindly
2• Challenging Outdated Assumptions
1. Being Limited by Past Mistakes 2• Taking New Risks
1.Thinking I am a Failure 2. Believing Something Didn’t Work to finding what works.
1. Quitting 2• Persevering
Lesson 1 :Learn a New Definition of Failure
How can you help yourself learn a new definition of failure and develop a different perspective concerning failure and success? By making mistakes. Remember, mistakes don’t define
Think of mistakes in a whole new light, and begin learning from them as a feedback instead of seeing it as a final outcome or like a death sentence.
They are merely the price of achievement on the success journey.
Lesson 2 : Remove the “You” from Failure
If you’ve been thinking of yourself as a failure, you can break yourself out of that negative thinking pattern. Look at an area of your life where you have repeatedly failed, and do the following:
Examine your expectations for that area. Write them down. Are they realistic? Do you expect to do everything perfectly? Do you expect to succeed on the first try? How many mistakes should you expect to make before you succeed? Adjust your expectations.Find new ways to do your work. Brainstorm at least twenty new approaches, and then try at least half of them.Focus on your strengths. How can you use your best skills and personal strengths to maximize your effort?Vow to bounce back. No matter how many times you fall down, pick yourself up and keep going.
Lesson 3 :Take Action and Reduce Your Fear
What objective essential to your success are you most afraid of tackling right now? Write what it is here:
The only way to get going is to face that fear and act. Write down all your fears associated with the activity.
Lesson 4: Change Your Response to Failure by Accepting Responsibility insteading blaming others
Take a hard look at a very recent failure that you have considered not to be your fault. Look for anything negative in the failure that you should claim responsibility for it and Then own it. Don’t point fingers or blame others for your lack of Success or getting into Victim mentality.
Lesson 5:Don’t Let the Failure from Outside Get Inside You, Focus on Your strengths instead of flaws
What in your life have you considered to be the greatest source of frustration and failure? Think about that factor, and then list all the heartaches, pains, obstacles, and problems related to it.
Consider the items one at a time, and decide whether each is a fact of life (which you need to accept and then move beyond) or an item that requires positive action, be positive despite the setback, move forward.
Focus on your strengths instead of wasting time on your flaws or weaknesses.
Lesson 6:Say Good-bye to Yesterday
To move forward today, you must learn to say good-bye to yesterday’s hurts, tragedies, and baggage. You can’t build a monument to past problems and fail forward.
Take time right now to list the negative events from your past that may be holding you hostage:
For each item you listed, go through the following process.
1. Acknowledge the pain.
2.Grieve the loss
3 .Forgive the person.
4. Forgive yourself.
Determine to release the event and move on.
Lesson 7: Find the Benefit in Every Bad Experience
Finding the benefit in a bad experience is an ability that takes time to develop and effort to cultivate.
During the coming week, as you experience problems, setbacks, or failures, take some time at the end of the day to brainstorm all the good things that can come of them. And try to maintain a positive mind-set as you move forward so that you can keep yourself open to the coming benefits of failure.
Lesson 8: If at First You Do Succeed, Try Something Harder
The willingness to take greater risks is a major key to achieving success, and you may be surprised that it can solve two very different kinds of problems.
First, if you’ve been hitting all the goals you set for yourself, then you need to increase your willingness to take chances. The road to the next level is always uphill, so you can’t coast there.
Think about the next big goal ahead of you. Write down your plan for reaching it. Then go over that plan to see whether you have included enough risks. If not, find parts of that process where you can push the envelope, take more chances, and increase your opportunity for success.
Lesson 9: Get Up, Get Over It, Get Going
Finalize your goal.
Order your plans.
Risk failing by taking action.
Advance based on your character.
Reevaluate your progress continually.
Develop new strategies to succeed.
If you’re willing to stay determined, work according to a plan, and keep getting up when you get knocked down, you will be able to achieve your goals—and someday your dreams.
Lesson 10:Now You’re Ready to Fail Forward
The next time you find yourself envying what successful people have achieved, recognize that they have probably gone through many negative experiences that you cannot see on the surface. An old joke goes like this:
“Never ask what’s in a hot dog while you’re eating one.” The idea is that if you did know what’s in it, you’d never want to eat one again. A lot of failure goes into success.
If you really want to achieve your dreams—I mean really achieve them, not just daydream or talk about them—you’ve got to get out there and fail. Fail early, fail often, but always fail forward. Turn your mistakes into stepping-stones for success.
Now that you know how to fail forward, you won’t have to give up either. I wish you well. Keep dreaming, and keep failing forward.
Question of the day
What lessons did you learn from failures ?
Thanks for your attention and please Do Have a Productive Week and Fail Forward.
Dr Laide Okubena